As an out of home working mom of two under two, it’s taken my entire motherhood journey so far to come up with systems in my home and at work to get things done. My girls are now 2.5 years old and 7 months old when I decided to share are all the things I’ve learn to be productive with the things that need to get done so that I can focus my precious time on the things I want to do in my motherhood experience.
With my oldest daughter, my first epiphany was coming up with systems for how to be the healthiest mama I can be to not only lose my baby weight but to really be the strongest mama I can be so I can quickly grab my kids out of harm’s way and so I can run around and play with them as they grow. Most importantly, I need my kids to learn from me and their dad that a healthy lifestyle is normal.
As my daughter started to grow like weed, I realized I was spending so much money on all the things. She needed the next size up of clothes, she needed the tools to learn to eat, she needed the books to foster her language, and she needed the tools to help her develop physical coordination. Her developmental needs are not going to stop here and are only going to progress as she starts school, and extra-curricular activities. So, my next goal was to learn everything about finance so I can afford the things I want when I want them.
By my daughter’s first birthday and first Christmas, my home quickly got over taken by toys and all the baby gear. I then realized that my home was so overwhelming and we just had way too much stuff. We had officially transitioned in our life as a family of three. But our home didn’t transition with us. I then spent all of my extra time learning skills to declutter and organize our home for the season of life we were in.
My first day of tearing apart my kitchen to reorganize it, I found out I was pregnant with our second daughter. I was then in permanent nesting mode that entire pregnancy. I cleared our primary problem rooms from clutter and started organizing with a goal of getting ready for our new addition. By this time, I also had systemized finances in a way so that by time the baby was born, I could take my full maternity leave without impacting our lifestyle even though a portion of my leave was going to be unpaid from my employer. I felt like I was making progress to being that efficient mama I wanted to be! I was ready for baby girl #2!
But.. as your kids always do, I was humbled and forced to slow down and really enjoy the day and night newborn snuggles and bask in the toddler breakdowns because my oldest wasn’t the only baby anymore. Although I was so impatient and wanted to get back to my productive self, instead, this delirious mama was born.
Two under two was pretty difficult to manage. But I had set systems and routines beforehand and we all learned to grow as a family of four. Then I had to go back to work… Introducing work in the mix really put a wrench in my productivity. Now I had everyone in my home and everyone out of my home depending on me. My mom brain was through the roof. I couldn’t remember anything and I was just getting by at home and at work.
I had had enough… For two weeks straight about 2 months after returning to work, I would come home from work and complete our evening routine like normal. By time my girls were sleeping, I was overworked, overwhelmed and wanted to cry myself to sleep. My family could tell I was tired. I knew that I was using my energy all wrong.
I knew I couldn’t do everything all at once. But how could I everything I wanted to do when I wanted to? I then started working on my time management for productivity. And THIS! This changed the game. If there is anything I learned, it’s about changing my habits, one habit at a time. And this works for everything! My health, maintaining my home and my finances, and keeping up with all the projects in my house and at work.
And now, at 7 months postpartum, I am starting to work on my health again, my home is manageable, I’ve reevaluated my finances to start investing in my family of four and my work is finally on autopilot. I went from barely getting by to soaring high! I couldn’t have done it without implementing all the systems. But the systems will only continue to work if I maintain and refine them over time. And that’s what I want to share with you. All the systems I’ve learned so far and how I plan to maintain them as life changes with the seasons.
You might even get some insight on how different maintaining and refining strategies might fail me… But I really just want to create a community of mamas who also have gone through the same chapter or going to go through the same chapter as me soon. I want your feedback on what’s worked for you, and I want to share what’s worked for me. We all have a delirious mama inside of us. Whether that mama is still living or she’s dormant for the time being.The goal is to lead a motherhood that you have always imagined! The one from your greatest dreams and from the movies that show all the precious moments. We all deserve that. What type of motherhood have you always imagined? Let’s find it together!
With love,
This Delirious Mama, Rose <3